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essie aged 53
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Go gently

At the end of October 2007 my mother died. She'd been ill with cancer for a while. Mum lived in Australia and Dad had been keeping me up to date each week. One early morning he rang saying there were only a few days left. It was difficult getting flights at such short notice but some very understanding airline people managed to book me on a flight so that I would arrive in Australia the evening of the next day. Unfortunately Mum died whilst I was still in the air. I really needed to see Mum one last time so arranged a viewing of her body. Anyway I'm not always the most patient person and had been so stressed the past few years that at the time Mum died I was off work with stress and depression. Mum had always been great with people, full of all the patience and understanding that I never had. So talking to her in the Chapel at the funeral home I kept asking how I could be better and more like her. When I was leaving I said goodbye to the receptionist at the funeral home. Imstead of offering condolences or simply saying goodbye she looked at me for a second and then said "go gently".

Good advice, thanks Mum.

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